The Joy of Daydreaming!

What IS Daydreaming exactly?

According to Webster, ‘it’s a short-term detachment from the immediate surroundings, when a person's contact with reality is blurred and partially substituted by a fantasy.’ Sounds like fun!

Fun and good for us! When the mind wanders in a 'day dream', ideas come either partially or completely formed from seemingly ‘out of the blue’, like a bolt of lightning out of a clear blue sky, or a vague half formed thought that needs time to incubate. In either case daydreams are full of information for us.

Many brilliant people credit their daydreams and imagination as the foundation of their creativity and genius. Einstein said: "When I examine myself and my methods of thought, I come close to the conclusion that the gift of fantasy has meant more to me than my talent for absorbing positive knowledge."

“Everything starts as somebody’s daydream.”
Larry Niven – Author

If daydreaming facilitates bursts of creative insight why don’t we consciously engage those moments more often? We have probably been discouraged from childhood and hold a belief that daydreaming is a waste of time. Well, now we know the truth! It’s actually a creative endeavor that can provide wondrous results!

Here’s how to begin . . .

1) Make space for daydreaming and allow your mind to wander.
A slow walk in nature is perfect for allowing a clearing of the mind so
that it has space to wander.
Look out a window and watch the birds or clouds or raindrops.
Cloud watching is fascinating and causes us to use our imagination to
create images out of vapor!

2) Ask the ‘What if?’ questions. Daydreaming the answers is fun and insightful.
What if money were no object where would I travel?
What if I had three wishes – what would they be?
What if I could pursue anything I wanted (and there were no barriers) what
would it be?

3) Keep a ‘Daydream Diary” to capture interesting or reoccurring daydreams,
there’s something in there for you to know. Pay attention to the signs and
symbols and explore what they mean to you.

4) Share your daydreams with trusted friends and family, they will support your
dreams becoming reality!

“The best dreams happen when you’re awake!”
Flower - Aspiring writer.

Now, let’s get to it! What are your daydreams?

Creating the Future!

Releasing the past and creating the future takes courage!

I, for one, don’t often feel courageous. However, there are little things I intend to pay more attention to so that 2013 becomes alive with more joy!

Here is my list:

1.) Challenge my beliefs about what I think I can and can’t do.

It’s so easy to let beliefs go unchallenged – this year I will not allow old beliefs to predict unwanted outcomes. The first belief I challenge is ‘I probably can’t grow my Soul Coaching ® practice in a down economy.” My new belief, “I’ll work with enthusiasm and dedication doing what I love and the practice will grow, just watch!”

2.) Release something from my life that doesn’t serve me.

I’m working to release judgment. It’s so devious and insidious, and sometimes it pops up before I even know it’s there! Not only does it not serve me it is destructive to myself and others. So, I’ll work to replace it with the quest to see the ‘face of God’ in everyone, and the ‘hand of God’ in everything. This is a quest worth being on!

3.) Really open my senses to the world around me.

For me ‘wonder and awe’ are in the little things; the laugh of my daughters and grandsons, the colors of the autumn leaves, the feel of flannel sheets on a cold night, a really good red wine! But I wonder do I miss wonders around me? I believe I can be even more open to the joy and wonder of life and I intend to capture those moments on a daily basis!

4.) Learn one new thing.

What will it be? This question is fun to contemplate! Will it be jewelry making or writing poetry or maybe quilting – I haven’t decided yet, but it will be something fun and creative!

As we continue to move into the New Year, a year with more questions than answers ~ may you know the wisdom of your Soul and the power of Spirit. Remember the wonders of creation and the direct access we have to God. I send Love and wishes for an amazing year ahead!

So, what might you do to move with courage into 2013 to make it a joyful and creative year?

Happy New Year ~ 2013!!
January ~ The Dreams to Come

Reflection & Anticipation


January is a wonderful and complex month. When I explore the origins of January, I find the meaning and symbolism to be from Roman mythology.

Janus is represented by the ‘two-headed’ or ‘two-faced’ god, one face looking back and reflecting on the past, and one face turned in anticipation toward the future.


Janus is also the god of doors and gateways; goings and comings, closings and openings, endings and beginnings. What an amazing balance of the past and the future ~ right in the present!

As I take time to reflect on the past year, I’m filled with gratitude. Not that 2012 didn’t hold disappointment and heartache, setbacks and sadness, because it did for me and countless others. But I also feel an enormous depth of gratitude because I made it through with faith and with love more often than not! It’s not been easy for me to learn that it’s ok to feel disappointment, sadness and heartache, which is of course just part of life. The feelings are not to be judged, they are to be felt and acknowledged and allowed to be until I choose to move into thoughts and feelings that bring surrender, forgiveness and peace.


I’ve also experienced much happiness and excitement, love and surprises, and continue to know that when I get out of my own way and not judge the moment as good or bad, I’m able to be grateful for the entire year and the whole of my life.


In looking forward to 2013 with anticipation ~ believing we are moving into a new ‘era’ ~ I’m feeling excitement and awe. The enormity of the future is at our fingertips and that can also be a bit scary! What will I think, believe, and do to create the best possible year of my life? Since we all have this ability to design the life we dream of, what will you think, believe and do to create the next year of your life?

A Walk Down Life's Path

Life is a strange and mysterious process.

As we grow up we have a picture in our head, a plan of what our life will be. And then life happens; sometimes in a blissful way, sometimes in a painful way and in both cases we may be taken by surprise!


When bliss catches us by surprise we have a feeling of awe – life is so very good. And when pain catches us by surprise we have a feeling of deep sorrow – life is so very hard.

The good experiences we claim as ours, and rejoice in the good fortune. Sometimes when we experience something we judge as bad we tend to place blame on ourselves, someone or something else. When things happen in my life I’m reminded of the story of the Chinese farmer.

There was a Chinese story of a farmer who used an old horse to till his fields. One day, the horse escaped into the hills and when the farmer's neighbors sympathized with the old man over his bad luck, the farmer replied, "Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?" A week later, the horse returned with a herd of horses from the hills and this time the neighbors congratulated the farmer on his good luck. His reply was, "Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?"

Then, when the farmer's son was attempting to tame one of the wild horses, he fell off its back and broke his leg. Everyone thought this very bad luck. Not the farmer, whose only reaction was, "Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?"

Some weeks later, the army marched into the village and conscripted every able-bodied youth they found there. When they saw the farmer's son with his broken leg, they let him off. Now was that good luck or bad luck?
Who knows?

It is good to remember that things may not be what they seem on the surface. It would be wise to be grateful for all life’s experiences as we don’t really know where the lessons are that will bring us to Joy!

Two Daughters ~

For me poetry is a very intimate form of expressing our thoughts and feelings.

I wrote this poem several years ago and have not shared it with anyone until now. As I begin to share with you I well up with tears of love for my daughters and the joy they have given me!

Dedicated to Jade and Sunshine ~ I love you!


Two Daughters

Two daughters fill my soul.

Two daughters.
Fill my soul to overflowing with love.

Two daughters.
Fill my soul to overflowing.
With love that expands our hearts.

Two daughters.
Fill my soul to overflowing.
With love that expands our hearts, we cannot be separated no matter the distance between us.

Two daughters.
Fill my soul to overflowing.
With love that expands our hearts.
We cannot be separated no mater the distance.
Between us we are connected with a red velvet ribbon.

Two daughters,
Fill my soul to overflowing.
With love that expands our hearts.
We cannot be separated no mater the distance between us we are connected.
With a red velvet ribbon our hearts are tied together as one.

Be Still ~

I've had a quote by Dr. Wayne Dyer on my desk for several years, it says;

"When there is a problem there is not something to do ~ there is something to know".



I reflect on this quite a lot.

As a person who wants to 'do' something to 'fix' a problem, this concept has activated a huge paradigm shift for me.

So, when there is a problem how do we get to what we need to know?

Be Still.

Yes, be still. It's not as easy as it sounds but when we can slow down, and ask the Soul Question 'What does this experience (problem, issue) want me to know", we will receive the answer. It may take patience and practice, but the answer will come. It is a law of the universe!

Stillness can be achieved through meditation or even a solitary walk in nature. It's about not doing or thinking. It's about being still and listening! Be open to the answer you receive ~ as it will help you work through the experience and deepen the relationship with Your Self.

What is it that you need to know?

The Invitation

The Invitation

by Oriah Mountain Dreamer

One of the most beautiful, deep and expansive poems I've ever read, and I'd like to share it with you.


The Invitation

It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.

It doesn't interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon. I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life's betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain. I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it for fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own, if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic, to remember the limitation of being human.

It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul; if you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see beauty, even when it's not pretty, every day, and if you can source your own life from it's presence. I want to know if you can life with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, "Yes!"

It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up, after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done to feel the children.

It doesn't interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you, from the inside, when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.

This poem has the ability to crack me wide open every time I read it. I want to embrace my life with more love and depth and curiosity. I’ve accepted The Invitation many times, and then I forget. Then it reappears and causes me to remember and I accept again.

This Invitation is for you as well. Will you accept and journey with me?